2000 Jordan Institute
Vol. 2, No. 4
at the End of Placement
What can you
do to help foster parents deal with the feelings of loss that come at the end of a
placement? Here are some suggestions:
and honest about the duration of placement; share updated and relevant information with
foster parents on an ongoing basis.
the stages of grief. Coping with foster parent anger (or despair) may be easier if you see
it as a natural part of the grieving process.
condolence note after the placement ends. Make a follow-up phone call to express your
appreciation and concern.
resources are available, your agency may be able to assign a social worker to each foster
home. This worker could be a stable presence for the foster parent to turn to at the end
of a placement.
foster parent training related to separation and loss. This will help them understand
their own reactions to loss, as well as the reactions of their foster children.
parent associations and self-help groups can provide another avenue for the foster parents
to get support during times of separation.
S. (1981). When foster children leave: Helping foster parents to grieve. Child Welfare,
B. (1997). Thoughts on foster parent grief. Fostering Perspectives, 1(2), p. 5.
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